Honesty

Being able to see the long-term consequences of honesty.  That is a spiritual development which is rare.

 

Make someone feel better with an untruth, a "white" lie, when what they really need to hear will set them up for future success.

 

"I'm sorry my love, but you are not gifted in that area.  I think you should try something else and then come back to it in a year or two if you still feel that is where you are called."

 

"That's great.  You certainly put a lot of effort in..."  Setting them up for years of lost time and loss of perspective of their own worth in this area... 

 

I know which I would rather hear.  God's people will thrive in the truth, and through this they will glorify Him.  That is a worthy motive for honesty that hurts.