There are two types of listeners. They can be described in several different ways:
Those who listen, and those who really listen (properly)
Those who listen to themselves only, and those who listen to others
Those who love themselves, and those who love others
Those who wear you out, and those who build you up
Those who don't change much, and those who learn and grow and develop
Those who are selfish, and those who are selfless
In practice, we are all a bit of both types. Some are more at one end of things than others but we all have room to improve. I have three questions for you:
- Can you see how all of these things relate to being a good listener, and loving your neighbour?
- At which end of the spectrum do you want to be? (or, which is the more spiritual end?)
- Is the amount that you really listen to God (properly) reflected in how you listen to others?